We end up taking inappropriate action either to ourselves or others which only compounds the situation.
Each time we are tempted to go into and defend our victim story do your best to pause. For me that comes after I realize my fists are clenched (look for you physical signal), then I breath and blow up the person, place or thing---that can take a few minutes to all day sometimes (I confess it’s fun).
I acknowledge why I feel pissy and then after I’ve blown the situation up I look for what I can do to help me feel good. One thing I do is keep a journal of all the good things that have happened to me or experienced each day. There are usually several each day and that helps affirm to me that I’m really not such a victim after all.
What will you do today?