I’m about to tick more than a few people off---
A Soul mate---it's just a soul that you contracted to work out certain issues and complexities in this lifetime---yet, each person has free will to not honor the contract. Twin Flame and Soul-mate ideas sell books. Don’t give up on me yet…
Think of it as a playmate --- before you came down to this dimension you decided to tackle certain issues for example "relationships"---each person volunteered for their role. As far as life partner no one person through all of your life times is the perfect person for you because you are tackling different issues in each life. Some teacher/playmates were born into our soul family and we have a special affection for them. Sometimes we want to play with people born in other soul families because their “soul-family-heritage” is different than ours. It makes 3D life “interesting”
So, in relationships---some souls you've played with more--- and in this lifetime you meet them; and YES there is a connection--- even an intense biological one. And sometimes that person volunteered to play the bad guy so you would learn to love yourself enough NOT to put up with abuse or limitation.
And sometimes two souls come together to spark or hold the space for the other person’s heart to open. Once that’s done the contract is over and the two people then can go to the next level or not---depending on the “karmic baggage” the other carries and is choosing to play with this lifetime.
We all have free choice---if the other person can’t for whatever reason let go of their limitation or blocks that is their choice. It’s too bad when they decide to close their heart; and it creates karma for you if you don’t let them go. You can’t force someone to change; and you limit your souls journey by hanging onto someone who can’t and won’t change.
It doesn't mean that another soul-mate/playmate won't show up. In fact often someone seemingly perfect shows up because they are ready to be in a spiritual partnership with someone---you. All you have to do is let go of the Maddison avenue illusion of soul-mate and twin-flame.
The twin flame or soul-mate terms came about because people were trying to figure out how to deal with feeling attracted more to some people than to others---then it turned into a great marketing tool----twin flames---oye, we are all one energy so we don't really have another half we have to connect with to feel whole(you have to expand your mind out for this one)---when we humans decided to "separate" from the god consciousness we set up polarity which lent itself to the idea that another part of us is out there and we have to find it. All it really is ----is the part of us that wants to reconnect to creation energy and experience the unity of the masculine and feminine energy again.
Familiarity or attraction with someone simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them.
As always, you are at choice to choose what you believe. Ask though, will you choose limitation and the illusion of completeness or embrace a totally empowered you and knowing you are part of the whole and always have been and always will be.