from their Point of View, I really do my best to freeze and not respond. It takes practice. At first I didn’t “see” what was going on and then the bells and whistles started going off.
I began to Observe their energy, body language, intention and then it was easy to not respond or simply shrug. Let them think they won---who cares, it’s a tiny pay off anyway because what they really wanted was a “drama” feeding or more.
The more you practice the “freezing” the more you’ll learn to “trust” that you are not the “bad guy” they are projecting onto you.
Will you practice “freezing” today?