It’s not. It may feel that way. It’s a process of experiencing our anger or resentment and letting it go. Not forgiving the other person (we can only forgive ourselves); it’s more letting of the idea that we have to understand “why” it happened and the pull to rectify it or enlighten the other person.
Trust in the process. You are exactly where you need to be. Pick up your pen and now decide to drop it. That’s it---a decision. Every time you decide to pick up your obsession---surrender, laugh and drop it even if it’s just for a second.
Remember you’ll cognitively never figure out the “why” and can never get the other person to change really. Only they can decide to change.
Will you decide to surrender today---just decide to place your focus on what makes you happy (and then you are reprieved if only for a second)!