KC: Even though I did pretty good while visiting my family---I admit I didn’t feel like I could be myself
KC: Even though I feel like I can’t be myself around them---I acknowledge this conflict and choose to accept myself anyway
KC: Even though I have some regrets about this weekend---I acknowledge the times I did remove myself and tap out my feelings
EB: I don’t feel myself around them
SE: Why do they get to be like they are
UE: And I have to “behave” and take the higher road
UN: Why do I have to curb my tongue
CH: Why do I have to take their insults
CB: I’m so angry
UA: I’m so frustrated
TH: I’m so ---I don’t even know
EB: When I’m around them
SE: I don’t feel comfortable
UE: They are never going to change
UN: That is a fact
CH: Do I want mega conflict
CB: Or, understanding
UA: They can’t change
TH: Or they won’t change
EB: It’s all good
SE: I just have to be polite
UE: That’s all I have to do
UN: I am committed to my truth
CH: I don’t have to get them to see my side
CB: It’s too scary for them
UA: So the kindest thing I can do is be polite
TH: I really am the victor because most of the time I was polite and that is a gift
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: I gave them the gift of my understanding that they can’t change and that creates space for me to see just how committed I am to myself
When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to a quiet, peaceful, respectful life---even if at times it appeals I am being restrained---it’s the only gift I can share with them right now”