KC: Even though I’m still haunted about my up and quitting without proper notice. I acknowledge the immaturity and want to start to forgive myself.
KC: Even though I was immature back then---that doesn’t mean it have to torture and punish myself forever. I acknowledge my poor judgment and choose to behave differently in the future.
KC: Even though I keep beating myself up over something that happened decades ago I choose to place it in perspective and treat myself with the respect I didn’t treat that employer with.
EB: What a mistake
SE: Why did I do it
UE: What was I thinking
UN: I quit and it wasn’t even my battle to begin with
CH: I can’t possibly forgive myself for doing something so stupid
CB: I have to keep replaying it so I don’t do it again
UA: But I did- I leave jobs when it gets tough
TH: I keep playing out a version of that pattern
EB: I’m so sorry I didn’t see this before
SE: How can I forgive myself
UE: How can I excuse it
UN: I actually dishonor myself and a current employer by replaying the incidents I my head
CH: It keeps me from being the best I can be
CB: It keeps me from feeling I deserve better
UA: I can never punish myself enough to change the past behavior
TH: The only way to make amends is to forgive myself and do better
EB: If it’s not my business---butt out
SE: If I take issue with a policy or procedure- work the system
UE: Give management a chance to change
UN: Stop hurting myself over things I can’t control
CH: Find another job and give notice so I don’t get black listed
CB: Act and behave like a responsible adult
UA: Forgive myself, learn the lesson and move on
TH: Love and respect myself enough to think before I act
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: Pause before I act---I usually just react- It’s okay to pause before I act. I give myself permission to remember that---if I forget I will not beat myself up---I will endeavor to pause more before I act.
As you go through the day practice pausing every hour to just check in and breathe and tell yourself its okay to pause before you act. This way you start planting the seed of patience and clear thinking.