KC: Even though he/she runs that victim story non-stop I see how they are trying to manipulate me so they don’t have to face their part in their “victim” story. I acknowledge my irritation and am open to a different reaction.
KC: Even though in the past I would have played rescuer and it doesn’t feel comfortable with this new behavior. I honor and acknowledge my feelings and love myself enough not to rescue them.
KC: Even though they keep trying to manipulate me into enabling their victim story I honor my path and choose to mind my own business.
EB: They can’t see their part
SE: They keep running that victim story
UE: They keep trying to suck me into their drama
UN: It’s not my job to rescue them
CH: It’s not my job to point out what they are doing wrong
CB: I share my experience once and then it’s on them
UA: I can see when someone wants what I have
TH: And when they just want me to be their door matt
EB: I will not be quilted and shamed into being manipulated
SE: That’s their M.O. not mine
UE: I want clear and honest relationships
UN: It’s not comfortable though
CH: Why can’t they get it that it’s none of my business
CB: I’m beginning to resent them
UA: No one rescued me
TH: No one can
EB: I have to do my own rescuing
SE: I could have some compassion for them
UE: It took me years to take responsibility for my life
UN: I drove people away with my neediness and victim story
CH: I just have to keep an open heart and pray for them
CB: They can’t help it
UA: I’m sorry if others agree with the “victim” and blame me as well
TH: I’m proud of myself for Minding My Own Business
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: Minding My Own Business is hard but it is the responsible thing to do. Everyone is entitled to learn their own lessons in their own time. I owe them that respect and dignity.
As you go through your day and THEY try to guilt you etc tap on the UE and say “I respect you enough to let you learn your own lessons and I’m here when you are tired of the victim story.”