KC: Even though I know so-and-so is an expert I doubt they will help me. I acknowledge my thinking and want to be open to rethinking that.
KC: Even though I’m sure I’ll make a fool of myself. I’m open to changing my thinking.
KC: Even though I’m sure they’ll think I’m a pest. I acknowledge my feelings and am open to a new way to thinking.
EB: They’ll think I’m pest
SE: They’ll be irritated
UE: They won’t have the time to help me
UN: I don’t really know the person
CH: What if they say NO
CB: What if they can’t help
UA: I could ask them if they could refer me to someone
TH: I can ask if this is a good time to talk to them
EB: I’m honored when people ask me for help
SE: If I can help I do and if I can’t I explain why nicely and refer them to someone who can
UE: Successful people like to be of service and give back
UN: I am acknowledging them as an expert
CH: Experts like to help
CB: I’m not a kid anymore
UA: These people are not my parents who ignored me
TH: Its okay to phone people
EB: Chances are the person is not going to belittle me
SE: Chances are the person is not going to humiliate me
UE: Chances are they are going to be polite and get back to me when they have the time
UN: This person is not an angry parent
CH: This person is not a raging parent
CB: The worst that will happen is they won’t be able to help me
UA: The most likely scenario is they will have at least one piece of valuable information to give me
TH: They are not my parents and its okay to call
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: Step by step, inch by inch---taking baby steps out of the prison
of isolationism. It’s safe for me to call and ask for help.
As you go through your day make a list of questions you need help with and a list of people who might be able to help you with answers. Then schedule a time to call them. You’ll be surprised with the results.