KC: Even though I want to move ahead in my life I keep hearing the critical voices of my friends and I admit I’m afraid
KC: Even though I want to be successful I’m afraid I won’t fit-in with my current circle of friends---I
acknowledge this and am open to shifting this
KC: Even though I think changing is too risky I’m open to seeing it differently
EB: I’m afraid
SE: My friends will talk behind my back
UE: I can just hear them making fun of me
UN: I won’t fit in
CH: They might even dump me
CB: I’ll be alone
UA: Who do I think I am
TH: They’ll think I’ll look down on them
EB: I need them
SE: I don’t want to be alone
UE: I don’t know how to defend my new positions
UN: I’m not strong enough
CH: I don’t want to change badly enough I guess
CB: I feel pathetic
UA: But maybe we’ll still have some things in common
TH: Maybe I’ll find new friends
EB: Maybe I can have two circles of friends
SE: It doesn’t have to be all or nothing
UE: If they make fun of me it’s just their fear showing
UN: I can smile and try to shift the subject
CH: I will find people and new groups to fit in with
CB: Life always changes
UA: It’s like going to a new school
TH: I can do this
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: It may be outside my comfort zone; but I can be open to having two circles of friends
When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I can look for areas of common ground with my old friends and see where they overlap with my new friends so I feel and know I am whole and complete”