A Tapping Journey - Shift Wide Open

Relationships

5/30/2014

Well, we weathered one growth spurt and here comes another---speaking up for what you desire. Gulp, let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 1

KC: Even though I’m getting better at taking care of myself---I know I need to change in another area---asking for what I need and that brings up a lot of fears
KC: Even though I don’t want to go through any more changes----I honor and acknowledge how scary it all feels
KC: Even though I’m afraid to ask for what I need---I honor and acknowledge that it’s for my highest and best good to do so

EB: All this fear
SE: I have all this fear around asking for what I need
UE: He won’t like it
UN: I usually settle for what others think I deserve
CH: That is inauthentic
CB: I pretend that I do it because I don’t want to hurt others
UA: They don’t care really
TH: Everyone has their own right to their feelings

EB: They may not like my speaking up
SE: They can get mad
UE: They can get glad
UN: I just have to ask respectfully
CH: I’m not asking cause I’m needy
CB: I’m asking because it’s right for me
UA: I deserve to ask for what makes sense in the moment
TH: Like “hum, I’ll have to think about that and get back to you”

EB: It’s time I processed what feels right for me
SE: I don’t have to keep giving my power away
UE: I can choose to not engage if he gets angry
UN: It’s not selfish
CH: All these conflicting emotions
CB: I don’t have to do it perfectly
UA: I can admit if I’m wrong
TH: I can change my mind

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’m ready to start to learn what feels right for me and to speak up if it isn’t

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am open to learning how to communicate and negotiate what works in my relationships”

Have a great weekend!

Relationships

5/29/2014

Sometimes in a relationship one person starts to change---it can create panic and a whole host of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 4

KC: Even though we’re going through this period of adjustment I honor and acknowledge my feelings
KC: Even though I have all these remaining fears---I honor and acknowledge each one and love it away
KC: Even though we both are defensive and scared at times---I choose to trust the process

EB: All these remaining fears
SE: All these remaining judgments
UE: All this remaining anxiety
UN: Who will we be
CH: Who will each of us be
CB: Will he change next
UA: Will I be okay with it
TH: I want the best for each of us

EB: That is compromise
SE: We are each going through a growth process
UE: And need each other
UN: A true spiritual partnership
CH: Encouraging each other to be the best we can be
CB: All this fear and sadness
UA: Accepting the process
TH: Accepting that we each have a point of view

EB: That we don’t need to judge our differencing points of view
SE: He has his
UE: I have mine
UN: We’re adapting
CH: He sees I still love him
CB: He sees I’m less needy
UA: He sees it frees up his time to explore what makes him happy
TH: We both can make choices together and seperat

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Maybe there is calm after the storm

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to a healthy relationship”

Relationships

5/28/2014

Sometimes in a relationship one person starts to change---it can create panic and a whole host of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 3

KC: Even though I’m not letting him put me back in my box---I honor and acknowledge all the sadness I’m experiencing
KC: Even though I’m sad for both of us----I choose to hold my focus no matter what
KC: Even though he thinks I’m crazy---I know it’s his fear and I acknowledge I’m afraid also

EB: All this sadness
SE: All this fear around change
UE: Relationships are all about changing---spiritually helping each other
UN: That’s what I always wanted
CH: Maybe on the other side of this
CB: We’ll be together
UA: The unknown is scary
TH: BUT spacious

EB: Knowing I love myself
SE: And respect the other enough
UE: NOT to be inauthentic
UN: I miss the old co-dependent relationship
CH: It was predictable
CB: It was limiting
UA: It’s what I’ve always known
TH: It was holding us both back

EB: All this sadness
SE: He feels out of control
UE: I feel scared
UN: Yet, we still have so many things in common
CH: I choose to focus on the common denominators
CB: I choose to focus on all things are possible
UA: I choose to see that we will both be freer in the end
TH: I choose to NOT place limitations on our relationship

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I choose to face my fear

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to an unlimited spiritual partnership”

Relationships

5/27/2014

Sometimes in a relationship one person starts to change---it can create panic and a whole host of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2

KC: Even though I’m changing and he IS feeling insecure---I honor and acknowledge my feelings
KC: Even though I’m changing I choose to trust that it is going to be okay
KC: Even though I’m changing I choose to not let his fear hold me back

EB: He’s scared
SE: I’m scared
UE: This is new for both of us
UN: I can see his anger is masking fear
CH: So, I don’t need to react
CB: He doesn’t like my silence
UA: It’s okay
TH: We both are like little kids

EB: Growing into new ways
SE: I can still love him
UE: I just don’t need him in order to feel loved
UN: I know he resents growing up
CH: He’s been taking care of people all his life
CB: We are both afraid
UA: I choose to tap, feel, and tap
TH: All this sadness

EB: All this fear
SE: All these conflicting emotions
UE: All this rage
UN: All this anger that he’s trying to put me back in my box
CH: I don’t have to react
CB: I can honor and acknowledge it
UA: I can choose to see it as just change
TH: Growing pains

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: And once you’re grown----all things are possible

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to having healthy relationships in my life---always and forever”

Happy Memorial Day!

5/26/2014

EB: I’m grateful for my freedom
SE: I’m grateful for my health
UE: I’m grateful for my right to choose
UN: I’m grateful for the respect I have for others
CH: For all my spiritual tools
CB: For my ability to change and grow
UA: To set boundaries
TH: To honor myself

EB: To not let others dictate how I run my life or business
SE: To not feel guilty when people choose to not work with me
UE: To know that freedom is about making choices
UN: To not worry that the universe doesn’t have my highest and best good in store
CH: I’m grateful for all the learning and growing I’m doing
CB: Having faith that it’s all in divine right order
UA: To cherish people in my life that value what I do
TH: Who want to work with me

EB: Who value what I do
SE: Who don’t try to manipulate me
UE: I am grateful for waging my own war against my doubts
UN: To honor and acknowledge my courage to be true to me
CH: To honor and acknowledge that I will be okay
CB: To know that I am worthy and deserving
UA: I am grateful for all those that gave their lives
TH: For what they believed in

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I owe it to myself to be true to my concept of freedom

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am willing to continue to grow”

Relationships

5/23/2014

Sometimes in a relationship one person starts to change---it can create panic and a whole host of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 1

KC: Even though I’m changing I’m scared he’s gonna leave me---I honor and acknowledge how I feel
KC: Even though I’m afraid he won’t like the new me---I am committed to my path no matter what
KC: Even though I love him---I can’t stay the same and maybe he’ll even like the new me

EB: No he won’t
SE: A part of him likes the needy me
UE: What if he leaves me
UN: I’ll be abandoned again
CH: I don’t know what to do
CB: But I won’t be abandoning myself
UA: What good will that do me on a cold winter’s night
TH: I’m scared

EB: I don’t want him to leave
SE: Wait I don’t know that he’ll leave
UE: But the fear is there
UN: He doesn’t like change as a rule
CH: I can’t stay the same
CB: He mostly doesn’t like my neediness
UA: I don’t know what to do
TH: All this panic and fear

EB: What will happen
SE: All this fear of the unknown
UE: I’m afraid
UN: I choose to tap and feel and release
CH: I choose to tap through my fear
CB: I choose to focus on the highest and best good for myself
UA: And for the relationship
TH: I need to trust that all this is happening for my growth

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Into the person I’m meant to be

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to living a life that is not constricted by judgments and fears”

Have a great weekend!

Relationships

5/22/2014

Sometimes in a relationship the other person says or blames us for something---it’s a chance for us to clear some old triggers. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2

KC: Even though a part of me still feels hurt about what he said I honor and acknowledge how I feel
KC: Even though I admit my needy; he’s not perfect and oops, I almost judged him---and I want to let that part of me go
KC: Even though neither of us is perfect I acknowledge that when I’m hurt I react with judgment and I want to let that part of me go

EB: No I don’t
SE: He’s a jerk for what he said
UE: It hurt
UN: I always take the high road
CH: I’m tired of it
CB: But, this is my path
UA: He’s just showing me where I need to clear some old stuff out
TH: I’m sick of always taking the higher road

EB: Okay, so if I clear my judgmental stuff out then I won’t be so needy
SE: If I don’t judge him then he won’t feel reactive in return
UE: Oh, I’m actually a party to this hurtful dance
UN: I want to start to let this go
CH: My neediness and my reaction to what he said
CB: A part of me doesn’t want to
UA: I acknowledge that part of me that still doesn’t trust the process
TH: And the part of me that doesn’t feel safe

EB: And I admit I don’t trust him either
SE: That’s because I don’t trust myself
UE: So, the more I trust myself and the process
UN: The stronger our relationship will be
CH: Now that’s exciting
CB: I can back that
UA: I want to not judge him
TH: Because I don’t want to judge myself

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Then he won’t judge me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to letting go of more judgment; and finding a way to meet my own needs”

Relationships

5/21/2014

Sometimes in a relationship the other person says or blames us for something---it’s a chance for us to clear some old triggers. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 1

KC: Even though he said I was too needy I honor and acknowledge my feelings
KC: Even though he said this hurtful thing I know I’m reacting from my old hurts and honor and acknowledge this and am ready to let some of this old pain go
KC: Even though most of the time we get along I admit at times I push his buttons and I’m angry at his reaction

EB: Okay so we are both reacting
SE: But what he said hurt
UE: I know I can be too needy
UN: Doesn’t he get it
CH: I was always abandoned
CB: I was always left behind
UA: I have this fear from time-to-time
TH: Doesn’t he understand

EB: I just want to be loved
SE: He has his “ways” as well
UE: But I’m hurt
UN: Why is he so mean at times
CH: I know he had to be the pillar in his home growing up
CB: But still
UA: He should know better
TH: I’m MAD

EB: He’s not apologizing
SE: We’re both in reaction
UE: I need to work on my issue
UN: I need to fill myself up
CH: No one can make me feel safe except me
CB: Okay, maybe I was a little to clingy
UA: I can go out and do something fun by myself
TH: I don’t have to stomp out---I can wish him well

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’m safe and am not abandoned---even if it feels this way

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to recognizing and filling my own needs”

Relationships

5/20/2014

Sometimes our fears of unworthiness keep us out of relationships. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 3

KC: Even though a part of me is still afraid to be in a relationship I happily return those fears to sender
KC: Even though a part of me wants to be in a relationship---another part of me likes being alone
KC: Even though I feel this internal conflict---I honor and acknowledge it all

EB: It would be great to be in a relationship
SE: Yet I love being alone
UE: There I go with the polarity thinking
UN: I can still have alone time
CH: So can they
CB: That’s called respect
UA: What if it were possible
TH: To have a spiritual partner

EB: Each on their own path
SE: And supporting each other through the challenges of life
UE: That would be amazing
UN: The truth is I support people all the time
CH: I’m intuitive enough to give people space
CB: I know how to ask for space for myself
UA: I like working with others on a common goal
TH: Relationships are about working toward a common goal

EB: What a tremendous growth opportunity
SE: To love another
UE: Without trying to fix them
UN: And having that returned
CH: I am worthy of love
CB: And another is worthy of my love
UA: And when we come together
TH: All things are possible

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I am committed to loving myself and another---which is the opposite of fixing them

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to loving myself and another”

Relationships

5/19/2014

Sometimes our fears of unworthiness keep us out of relationships. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2

KC: Even though a part of me thinks I’m unworthy because I’m not in a relationship---I honor and acknowledge how difficult it is to unplug from the mass consciousness
KC: Even though I’m my own worst critic---what if another wasn’t bothered by the things that bug me about myself
KC: Even though I’m still a bit worried about what others think of me---I choose to start letting more and more of this go

EB: All these worries
SE: All this mind chatter
UE: All these checks and balances
UN: I keep assuming I must not be worth anything unless I have someone in my life
CH: What if I was energetically pushing them away
CB: Pushing them away until I was ready
UA: That’s entirely possible
TH: Some people find my idiosyncrasies endearing

EB: Who am I to judge myself wrong
SE: What if I found there’s endearing as well
UE: I am more accepting of people
UN: Wow, a non-judgmental partnership
CH: Supportive
CB: Caring
UA: Nurturing
TH: Now I can support that energetically

EB: It’s scary
SE: In the past I’ve been co-dependent
UE: That was then
UN: This is now
CH: I don’t have to fix anyone
CB: And they don’t have to fix me
UA: What a relief
TH: Hummmm, just maybe I don’t have to worry about worthiness

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Worthiness implies a lack of perfection---I don’t have to be perfect just willing to do what I’ve been doing---grow into the best of me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed a happy and healthy life now”