KC: Even though I need to change in order to be honest and true to myself I’m afraid my old friends won’t like the new me. I’m open to seeing this differently.
KC: Even though my old friends don’t want to change I can’t live with myself if I don’t and I honor and acknowledge the conflict in me.
KC: Even though it’s scary to be different I can’t deny who I am and what my interests are. I honor and acknowledge my situation and choose to change anyway.
EB: They won’t like me
SE: They’ll argue with me
UE: They’ll put me down
UN: I won’t know what to say to them
CH: I want them to be happy
CB: But they don’t like it when I change
UA: They don’t like when I set up boundaries
TH: They don’t like it when I don’t agree with them
EB: They don’t like it when I don’t agree with them
SE: I’m sorry they are uncomfortable
UE: I can’t be untrue to myself
UN: I have to change the unhealthy behavior and reactions in myself
CH: If what they do upsets me I can find a gentle way to set a boundary
CB: They won’t like it
UA: They will just make my life more miserable
TH: But, if I don’t then I will be miserable
EB: I owe it to myself to be happy
SE: I owe it to myself to feel good
UE: It’s okay if they don’t agree with me
UN: I can honor my opinion and theirs without getting defensive
CH: I don’t have to argue with them
CB: I just have to be true to me
UA: They will push the envelope to test me
TH: That’s okay- all change is uncomfortable at first
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: Everyday and in everyway I give myself permission to speak, act, and quietly disagree with them. It’s okay to establish new boundaries for myself.
When fear starts creeping in tap on the UE and say: “I give myself permission to feel and honor the conflict and uncomfortable feelings and know that soon the ‘period’ of adjustment’ will pass.”
Have a great weekend and remember to gently and honorably live in your truth and that you don’t have to thrust it on others---that will give them the space to honor and respect you.