A Tapping Journey - Shift Wide Open

Let downs

12/31/2014

Sometimes we expect life to go a certain way and when it doesn’t we feel victimized or let down. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 4 Lowliness

KC: Even though all my friends have plans I honor and acknowledge how lonely I feel because I don’t have plans
KC: Even though everyone seems to “have-a-life” as my mother would say---I honor and acknowledge all the raging feelings I’m having
KC: Even though I’m mostly happy with my life---I admit that a part of me feels unlovable right now

EB: I’m alone
SE: I hear my mother’s words reverberating in my mind
UE: “No one will ever love you because you are unlovable”
UN: Here I am alone
CH: Thinking she’s right
CB: I’m too depressed to use my tools
UA: No I’m not
TH: I can return that thinking to sender

EB: I am alone
SE: And this is my point of choice
UE: I can focus on the lack
UN: Or see it as an opportunity to turn it around
CH: I get to do exactly what I want to tonight
CB: And in my comfy PJ’s
UA: I get to focus on pampering myself
TH: I get to luxuriate on being with my best friend---ME

EB: Thank you
SE: I’m so grateful that I can turn the loneliness around
UE: It’s a choice
UN: Would I love to be with someone---Yes
CH: And, right now as the song says: “love the one you’re with”
CB: And that would be ME
UA: It’s a choice
TH: Thank you for the clarity

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Today is not totally out of my control---I can change my point of view

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to change my point of view and return old messages to sender---what a great way to end the year

Let downs

12/30/2014

Sometimes we expect life to go a certain way and when it doesn’t we feel victimized or let down. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 3 Boredom

KC: Even though everyone seems to be having the best time---I admit I’m board
KC: Even though everyone has people to be with during the holidays---I don’t and a part of me just feels blah
KC: Even though I’m okay with being alone---I just don’t get all the hype

EB: I just can’t get into the spirit
SE: I don’t feel very festive
UE: I’m not depressed
UN: Just board with all the “have to’s” this time of year
CH: I don’t have people to buy for
CB: So I avoid the stores
UA: It feels boring
TH: My life feels boring

EB: All the expectations
SE: All the rushing around
UE: All the messages from society to be happy and cheery
UN: I feel pretty content
CH: And yet guilty for feeling board
CB: I give myself permission to see the boredom as a limiting box
UA: I actually am placing myself in a box and not letting myself enjoy this time of year
TH: If it wasn’t a holiday season with expectations

EB: I’d be enjoying the heck out of the lights
SE: I’d be okay with renting movies
UE: I’d be okay
UN: It’s time to return that limitation
CH: I choose to focus on the feelings I want
CB: Regardless of the time of year
UA: I give myself permission to beam and relax
TH: No one gets to dictate how I feel

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: And I feel good---here’s to renting a movie and popcorn

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to enjoy my alone time

Let downs

12/29/2014

Sometimes we expect life to go a certain way and when it doesn’t we feel victimized or let down. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2Invitagions to parties

KC: Even though I should be grateful to be invited to holiday parties---I honor and acknowledge that it gets on my nerves
KC: Even though I like seeing people---it’s too much
KC: Even though there is so much to do and parties are nice---some of the people really push my buttons

EB: The judgments
SE: The bragging
UE: The questions
UN: I end up feeling less than
CH: All the food
CB: All my issues with food
UA: All the traffic
TH: All the forcing myself to chat with people I don’t know

EB: All the pressure to bring the perfect food contribution
SE: All the pressure
UE: All the emotions
UN: What to wear
CH: All the looks
CB: All the comments
UA: “Oh, you’re STILL single”
TH: All the pressure

EB: I don’t feel relaxed
SE: I don’t feel I can say no
UE: Then I’ll hurt their feelings
UN: If I leave early then I have to deal with the traffic
CH: Feeling trapped and uncertain
CB: I give myself permission to relax
UA: I give myself permission to enjoy the car ride and limit my stay
TH: I give myself permission to decline an invitation and treat myself to an at-home-spa-day

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Just cause I’m invited doesn’t mean I have to say Yes

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to return their judgments and expectations and disappointment to the appropriate sender

Let downs

12/26/2014

Sometimes we expect life to go a certain way and when it doesn’t we feel victimized or let down. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 1 Holiday Gifs

KC: Even though I go to great lengths to pick the perfect gift for people it seems to not be appreciated and I acknowledge my frustration
KC: Even though I put a lot of time into picking the perfect gift---I get the recycled gifts---I acknowledge my resentments
KC: Even though I do my best to focus on the season I must admit getting and giving gifts triggers a lot of disappointments in me

EB: I’m sorry but really---a nail buffer set
SE: That I gave YOU last year
UE: I spent hours picking out your gift
UN: I get the recycled gift
CH: That you forgot that I gave you
CB: REALLY
UA: I honor and acknowledge how angry I feel
TH: I feel unseen

EB: I feel unwanted and an afterthought
SE: I’m sorry please forgive me for being ungrateful
UE: All the voices in my head from my parents
UN: That I’m ungrateful
CH: All the disappointments
CB: All the judgments around the gifts I gave
UA: All the disappointments around the gifts I’ve received
TH: I want to let it all go

EB: They are never going to think about me
SE: I need to let my obsession go around finding the perfect gift for them
UE: I give them permission to return my gift
UN: I give myself permission to give the gift they gave me to goodwill
CH: It’s just an energy exchange
CB: If I make it judgmental then I create bad karma for me
UA: I choose to focus on the lights, the wrapping paper and knowing
TH: I give myself the most important gift---freedom

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Freedom from expecting them to gift me differently and freedom from me worrying about pleasing them

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to return their judgments about gifts to sender---BOOM

Gratitude

12/25/2014

Happy Christmas

EB: Tis the season to be grateful
SE: Thank you challenges
UE: You show me where I need to shift my perspective
UN: Acceptance---pretend I ordered the misery
CH: How can I move through it with a modicum of dignity
CB: Stress
UA: Thank you for showing me where I am not breathing and staying centered
TH: Thank you loneliness for showing me where I am not loving myself

EB: Problems
SE: Thank you
UE: Thank you all of life for making me so sad
UN: That I reach the point where I ask my angelic team for help and support
CH: To raise my vibration
CB: To help me see the blessing
UA: That is the greatest gift
TH: To shift my focus

EB: To accept it SO I can then decide how to change it
SE: Or, deal with it
UE: Not from reaction
UN: But from spiritual maturity
CH: I’m sorry I fought this enlightenment for so many years
CB: Thank you for not giving up on me life
UA: Thank you for this amazing ride
TH: Now let’s zoom into higher vibrations and joyful experiences starting NOW

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’m grateful and ready

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to change rides if I want to

Relationships

12/24/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 4 ---holiday family get-togethers

KC: Even though we’re all getting together I honor and acknowledge my feelings
KC: Even though I love everyone I admit it pushes all my buttons---I’m vegan and they ALL are not---I honor and acknowledge all my raging emotions
KC: Even though I know they will all poke fun at me---I want to enjoy the smells, the sights, the hugs, the laughs and just relax and enjoy the experience

EB: It’s not fair
SE: They are gonna single me out
UE: Make fun of me
UN: And the reality is
CH: Everyone will be singled out during the evening
CB: Everyone will be tortured according to their limiting beliefs
UA: It will feel like I’m the only one
TH: The truth is everyone will be singled out

EB: It’s okay I’m different
SE: It’s okay to laugh at it along with them
UE: It’s okay---they are just cute special needs kids
UN: Doing the best they can with their programing
CH: I’m evolving and I sure am not the same as last year
CB: Maybe this year I’ll be even more accepting of where everyone is in their life
UA: Some will be different
TH: Some the same

EB: I honor and acknowledge all of our differences
SE: If it gets to stressful
UE: If the questions and judgments get too overwhelming
UN: I’ll excuse myself and go into the bathroom
CH: And energetically blow up their energy
CB: Sending it back to them in neutral
UA: They are family after all
TH: They show me the parts of me I want to embrace and the parts I want to shift

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Thank you for being my mirror

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to flow with my emotions and only emote the positive ones---the others---KABOOM BABY

Relationships

12/23/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 3 ---friends from youth we see when home for the holidays

KC: Even though we were the best of friends, all of us, I still love them and there is a part of me that just doesn’t relate to them the same way
KC: Even though I enjoy being around my old friends from youth---we are different people now and I honor and acknowledge that
KC: Even though we are all in different places and sometimes we all judge each other for being different---I choose to start looking at this fact and sadness differently

EB: Some are stuck in high school mode
SE: Some are co-dependent
UE: Some are …well, we are all coping with life
UN: According to our internal beliefs
CH: A part of me wants to judge them for being different or stuck
CB: A part of me doesn’t want to look at my intolerance
UA: I’m impatient with myself

EB: People are in my life for a reason, season or a lifetime
SE: Some will drift away
UE: Others I simply have to notice where they are
UN: Most importantly, where I am
CH: Thank you all for being in my life in the past
CB: I’m sorry please forgive me
UA: I can’t relate to you in the same way
TH: I’m sorry, please forgive me

EB: I love you and it’s okay if I’m different now
SE: I love you enough to let you stay stuck if you want
UE: I’ll share what I do if you ask
UN: I won’t defend my beliefs or yours
CH: I’m sorry, please forgive me for not relating to you in the same old way
CB: I love you and thank you on an energetic level for understanding
UA: I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank you for the part you have and are playing in my life
TH: I choose to celebrate our differences this holiday season as we all get together--- like old times---it’s all an experience

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Viva la difference----Thank you

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to live in the present and love how much I’ve changed and accept the way others are

Relationships

12/22/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 2 ---relatives

KC: Even though I love my aunts, uncles and cousins I honor and acknowledge how frustrating and annoying they can be ---I want to shift this before I’m around them again
KC: Even though my relatives are passionate, funny and loving people at times their idiosyncrasies can sure get on my nerves
KC: Even though their quirks are endearing in small doses ---during the holidays it stresses me out

EB: My body rhythms are off and my nerves are strained
SE: So of course people are gonna get on my nerves
UE: Who am I kidding
UN: My relatives can be downright annoying over a long period of time
CH: All the personalities
CB: All the gossip
UA: All the judgments
TH: All on the same day

EB: It’s a bit much
SE: All their idiosyncrasies
UE: All my feelings about them
UN: All my judgments
CH: Oops, maybe they see me the same way
CB: That’s funny
UA: All these converging points of views
TH: No wonder I dread seeing them all

EB: No wonder I feel guilty for my point of view about them
SE: Interesting
UE: This is a free will planet
UN: Like a crazy amusement park
CH: We are all our own rides
CB: Interesting the rides we decide to stay on
UA: I choose to use my discernment
TH: Just notice the rides I like and just notice the ones I don’t

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I don’t have to judge just breathe and notice what rides THEY are choosing to go on

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to simply say “hummmmm, that’s interesting….I’ll get back with you”

Relationships

12/19/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 1 ---immediate family

KC: Even though I love my family there are times when they just make me feel like a child and I resent it---I honor and acknowledge how tiny I feel around them
KC: Even though I’m pretty confident in my everyday life---when I get around my family for the holidays I end up feeling like a phony and looser most of the time
KC: Even though I can ignore the snips of most people---get me around family at the holidays and I could cry and end up stuffing my face and then feel even worse

EB: All these emotions
SE: All the ways I feel I’ve abandoned myself
UE: I don’t seem to know how to set boundaries around my family
UN: I can’t control them
CH: They sure know how to control me
CB: It’s frustrating
UA: I just don’t know what to do
TH: WHY

EB: Why can’t they just let me be
SE: Oh, what if I just tried noticing their points of views
UE: Just notice and say “hummm, interesting”
UN: That way I can unplug from their agenda
CH: Sure they might be frustrated or jealous of me on some weird level
CB: Who cares
UA: I just don’t want to feel frustrated this holiday season
TH: They sure are passionate about their point of view

EB: About how I should live my life
SE: It’s downright hurtful
UE: Only if I let it---it’s just their limiting point of view
UN: THEY have limiting points of views about me
CH: THEY are not going to change
CB: AND I can simply by running a mental script ----noticing
UA: “What a passionate, limiting, point of view you have about me
TH: HUMMMMMMM”

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I choose to notice they all have points of views about me and it’s not my job to correct them---phew!

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself the gift of not trying to change their limiting point of view about me---phew, phew, and hummmmmmmmmmmmmm

Relationships

12/18/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so changed and mean?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 3 During and after the breakup

KC: Even though a part of me is still in resistance because my partner just won’t stop---I choose to return my focus to what I deserve---freedom
KC: Even though a part of me wants to control him---I acknowledge that there is a part of me that is frustrated that I can’t control my life and I choose to accept it and move forward
KC: Even though a part of me likes to be taken care of---what I really desired and still do is unconditional love which is not controlling--- I choose to give that to myself

EB: He just won’t stop
SE: I get in a peaceful place and BAM
UE: There he goes again
UN: He’s an outward reflection of my chaos inside
CH: I’m frustrated that I can’t control him
CB: And he’s frustrated that he can’t control me
UA: I choose to focus on what I want
TH: Just ignoring him is the most loving thing I can do

EB: If that means not talking to him fine
SE: I honor and acknowledge that I cannot control him or his reaction
UE: He will never see my side
UN: Why argue
CH: I don’t care what buttons he pushes
CB: I refuse to try to control him
UA: I honor and acknowledge all the feelings that are coming up
TH: Rage, anger, disappointment, betrayal and abandonment

EB: I honor and acknowledge them and choose to expand my fear out
SE: To let it get bigger, and bigger and finally like a balloon it bursts
UE: Then I can return to my peacefulness
UN: I then regain my power and knowing
CH: I can only control myself
CB: I refuse to buy into his 2 year old tantrums
UA: I have the power to take a second to honor and acknowledge my feelings
TH: And then deal with them energetically

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’ve been trying to get someone to help me and it turns out that person is me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to rescue myself and not stoop to anybody’s level