A Tapping Journey - Shift Wide Open

Abandonment

4/5/2013

When friends abandon you
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though I was emotionally abandoned by my parents---I admit I continue the pattern of attracting into my life people that leave me
KC: Even though it seems everyone eventually leaves me---I’m open to changing this
KC: Even though I’m attracting a “healthier” group of people it still hurts when a “friend” does abandon me---because I then think I’m still broken

EB: Here I go again
SE: What’s the point
UE: I’m back where I started
UN: Everyone abandons me
CH: What’s the point of trusting
CB: I’m just gonna get hurt
UA: I’m just gonna keep attracting people who hurt me
TH: My best friend----I can’t believe it

EB: I really thought I was over this
SE: I feel so stupid
UE: What did I miss
UN: Who cares
CH: I got hurt
CB: Maybe it’s not my fault
UA: Maybe it has everything to do with her
TH: Hummm, maybe it’s just to clean up the last of my abandonment issues

EB: To know that I can acknowledge how I feel
SE: And have some compassion for myself
UE: To accept that these feelings will arise from time to time
UN: To see that it’s not EVERYONE in my life who leaves
CH: To put it in perspective
CB: To not close down my heart each time someone disappoints me
UA: To give myself the space to process my feelings and allow myself time to grieve
TH: And then to put it into perspective

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Just because one person in the present hurts me it doesn’t mean I need to close my heart to everyone and to know not everyone abandons me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to living from an open heart because I’m worth it and that makes me happy”

Have a great weekend!

Abandonment

4/4/2013

Not Safe to Trust
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though I was abandoned by my mother and intellectually know that’s why I don’t trust people---I acknowledge this and am open to changing this
KC: Even though I have trust issues---I honor and acknowledge that they kept me safe and now it’s time to let them go
KC: Even though I don’t trust people---I’m open to changing this

EB: NO, I’m not
SE: People can’t be trusted
UE: I can’t open my heart
UN: I’ll get hurt
CH: Are you crazy
CB: I get hurt every time I open my heart
UA: I can’t trust
TH: It’s not safe

EB: Hummm, maybe I’m just not hearing people
SE: Maybe I’m not trusting myself
UE: Some people tell me they have issues and I ignore it
UN: Then I get hurt
CH: I need to believe people when they tell me they have issues
CB: Maybe I can start to trust myself
UA: To open my heart a bit at a time
TH: I can start by believing when people tell me they have issues

EB: Let myself “sense” if others are not being honest
SE: I do notice when my stomach tenses up
UE: Just practice feeling into my body to see what is true
UN: Little by little knowing what is right and what is wrong
CH: Learning to trust myself
CB: Learning to trust others
UA: Letting go of the pain of mother abandoning
TH: Seeing that not everyone will leave

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: The reality is not everyone is supposed to be in my life forever----learning to feel into the relationship and to see the reality of what the person says and does

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to one happy, healthy and trusting life”

Abandonment

4/3/2013

Not Safe to Trust
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though I was abandoned by my mother and intellectually know that’s why I don’t trust people---I acknowledge this and am open to changing this
KC: Even though I have trust issues---I honor and acknowledge that they kept me safe and now it’s time to let them go
KC: Even though I don’t trust people---I’m open to changing this

EB: NO, I’m not
SE: People can’t be trusted
UE: I can’t open my heart
UN: I’ll get hurt
CH: Are you crazy
CB: I get hurt every time I open my heart
UA: I can’t trust
TH: It’s not safe

EB: Hummm, maybe I’m just not hearing people
SE: Maybe I’m not trusting myself
UE: Some people tell me they have issues and I ignore it
UN: Then I get hurt
CH: I need to believe people when they tell me they have issues
CB: Maybe I can start to trust myself
UA: To open my heart a bit at a time
TH: I can start by believing when people tell me they have issues

EB: Let myself “sense” if others are not being honest
SE: I do notice when my stomach tenses up
UE: Just practice feeling into my body to see what is true
UN: Little by little knowing what is right and what is wrong
CH: Learning to trust myself
CB: Learning to trust others
UA: Letting go of the pain of mother abandoning me
TH: Seeing that not everyone will leave

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: The reality is not everyone is supposed to be in my life forever----learning to feel into the relationship and to see the reality of what the person says and does

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to one happy, healthy and trusting life”

Abandonment

4/2/2013

Perfectionism
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though I grew up thinking I had done something wrong and as a result strove to be perfect—I honor and acknowledge this and choose to start easing up on myself
KC: Even though I beat myself up for not being perfect because my mother didn’t love me---I’m open to shifting this
KC: Even though I think I have to be perfect so others will like me---I acknowledge this and am open to changing this

EB: I have to be perfect
SE: If I’m not perfect people will leave
UE: I wasn’t perfect and my mother left
UN: I have to be perfect
CH: This crazy drive to be perfect
CB: All this stress
UA: All this fear in my body
TH: That I’m not good enough

EB: This fear I’ll be abandoned if I’m not perfect
SE: This fear that I’m damaged
UE: That I have to be hyper-vigilant
UN: I choose to relax
CH: To know it wasn’t me
CB: It was her
UA: Mother couldn’t love me
TH: Not the other way around

EB: I choose to relax
SE: To relax into life
UE: To see where I can relax into the flow of life
UN: To breathe
CH: Letting go of all the stress
CB: Letting go of all the negative messages racing around in my mind
UA: Learning to trust life
TH: Learning to let some people go

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Life happens, some people leave, others stay---it is life---as long as I am authentic it will be okay---life flows and I can flow with it

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to one happy, joyous and imperfect life”

Abandonment

4/1/2013

Feeling out of place
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though I know I have nothing to feel bad about---I still don’t feel like I belong
KC: Even though I know this feeling of being different is just a feeling----I’m now open to letting it go
KC: Even though I never feel comfortable around others---I’m open to shifting this

EB: All this uneasiness
SE: Never feeling like I belong
UE: Always feeling odd
UN: Feeling less than
CH: Isolating
CB: Hiding
UA: Settling
TH: Negative self-talk

EB: Stressed
SE: On guard
UE: Suspicious
UN: Looking for nonverbal signs from others that I wasn’t accepted and should leave
CH: All these lost feelings
CB: Adrift
UA: Separate
TH: Not as good

EB: I honor and acknowledge all these feelings
SE: Choosing to focus on when I was happy
UE: Felt happy
UN: That feeling of connectedness with “joy”
CH: Not judging myself
CB: Feeling okay
UA: Feeling happy
TH: Connected

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I choose to focus on the times I felt happy and connected to something greater than myself---happiness that light and right energy that doesn’t judge---just accepts and expands

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to a happy and connected life to myself, my feelings, and all of creation---and so it is”

Abandonment

3/29/2013

Guilt and Shame
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though she abandoned me ---I feel guilty and ashamed as if it’s my fault---I’m open to changing this
KC: Even though I didn’t do anything wrong I acknowledge I took on the shame and guilt she should have and I’m open to shifting this
KC: Even though I was just a kid I honor and acknowledge how loving I was----I took on her guilt and shame and now I get to return it to the ethers and take another step into my KNOWING that I never did anything wrong to feel guilty and ashamed about

EB: All these years
SE: How stupid do I feel
UE: It wasn’t my guilt and shame
UN: I was unconsciously loving and took on what she should have been feeling
CH: All that guilt and shame
CB: Returning all that from whence it came
UA: Never to return to me in this reality
TH: WOW, all babies and kids are loving

EB: They take on the guilt and shame
SE: To hold until someone is ready to feel it
UE: Tap into it and release it
UN: How loving I am
CH: What a great service I get to do
CB: To break the genetic lineage
UA: To stop feeling guilty and ashamed
TH: To step further into my KNOWING that I am and always have been loving

SE: I don’t need to feel stupid
UE: How great is it that I now have this awareness
UN: I choose to honor how loving I was and am
CH: I choose to honor how brave I was and am
CB: I choose to relax and start letting go of the guilt and shame
UA: I am and always have been loving and worthy of love
TH: Ya gotta love how liberating awareness is when you can tap out the yukky feelings and tap in your KNOWING

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I honor and acknowledge how loving I always have been and I honor and acknowledge how GREAT it feels to KNOW how loving I am on a deeper level

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to one, happy, joyous life”

Have a great weekend!

Abandonment

3/28/2013

Sadness
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though it is a process moving through the feelings of abandonment----I honor and acknowledge the sadness I’m experiencing
KC: Even though there is all this sadness---all the time---I honor and acknowledge it and am open to releasing more
KC: Even though there is all this sadness I acknowledge how committed I am to shifting all this

EB: All this sadness
SE: It’s there all the time
UE: I wake up and it’s there
UN: All this sadness
CH: Just acknowledging that it is there
CB: I feel it
UA: I feel it
TH: I honor and acknowledge it

EB: I feel it in my heart
SE: I feel it all over my body
UE: I don’t feel in control
UN: I want to be happy
CH: I want to wake up and feel happy
CB: All this sadness---return to from whence you came never to return to me and this reality
UA: All this sadness---I love you
TH: Yes, you---you have been my constant companion

EB: Now it’s time for you to retire
SE: What would it be like to feel happy
UE: Hummm, relaxing
UN: I can focus on a time I was relaxed
CH: Tap in how great that felt
CB: What was going on to make me feel happy
UA: Choosing to focus on what makes me happy
TH: Letting my body vibrate to happy

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Establishing a new body-template of happy---so my body knows it can feel happy no matter what others say and do to me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to my deciding how I feel and KNOWING my truth --- that I am loveable”

Abandonment

3/27/2013

Anger and disappointment
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though she never loved me and in truth was probably incapable of love---I acknowledge how much it hurts
KC: Even though I was just a baby and it shouldn’t matter---it DOES and I’m hurt and angry and am MAD that I feel worthless and unlovable and it’s all her fault---and I’m open to changing this
KC: Even though I’m holding all this disappointment and anger inside---I’m willing to start letting it go

EB: I was just a baby
SE: Who doesn’t love babies
UE: I must be unlovable
UN: The heck with that
CH: She was and is incapable of love
CB: Why do I blame myself
UA: WHY questions are victim questions
TH: I refuse to be a victim anymore

EB: I’m furious that I took her abandoning me emotionally
SE: As proof that I was unlovable
UE: I was just a baby
UN: Innocent
CH: I’m sorry her heart was closed
CB: I just need to scream that I’ HATE her
UA: It wasn’t fair
TH: I HATE her

EB: That feels better
SE: I just had to admit it
UE: Feel the anger and the disappointment down deep into my toes
UN: I admit she will never love me
CH: I’m sorry body that you were rejected and unloved
CB: I’m not going anywhere
UA: It’s okay to feel and let go
TH: We won’t die from feeling and letting it go

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I am not HER----I won’t kill us or hurt us---I allow myself to feel the anger and disappointment and destroy and un-create it now times a godzillion --- POD and POC it all NOW

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to knowing I am loveable no matter what I experienced as a baby”

Abandonment

3/26/2013

General anxiety
Parental Abandonment can leave you feeling lost, unsafe, sad---a number of feelings. Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off.

KC: Even though I have this fear and I just feel sad all the time ---I acknowledge that I’m mad that my mother never wanted me
KC: Even though I have this anxiety and sadness all the time---I acknowledge that and am open to
letting it go
KC: Even though I have all this anxiety and know it’s because I was never loved by my mother as a child----I honor and acknowledge this and choose to relax

EB: All this fear
SE: All this sadness
UE: All this anxiety just beneath the surface
UN: It never leaves
CH: It’s there when I wake up
CB: It’s there all the time
UA: It clouds everything
TH: It won’t go away

EB: I know it’s not my fault
SE: I know it
UE: Yet, I’m in such pain
UN: Why didn’t she love me
CH: Why did she go away
CB: I feel so alone
UA: I’m scared
TH: I feel so stupid

EB: Like a big baby
SE: I’m just gonna feel it
UE: Return it to sender
UN: Tap and feel and tap and feel
CH: Until I feel peaceful
CB: I choose to feel peaceful
UA: I choose to start letting it go
TH: Even get rip roaring mad until I can feel peaceful

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I first have to acknowledge that this sadness is there and then give myself permission to start letting it go

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to a happy, peaceful and joyful life”