Category: Childhood/Negative

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12/14/2012

Discovering who you are now
Let’s borrow benefits and tap in some new identities over the next few days

KC: Even though I’m really, really used to telling my victim story---I’m open to changing that
KC: Even though I’m scared to let go of my victim story---I do like mysteries and look forward to unraveling the mystery of who I’ll be without my old story
KC: Even though I’m afraid I can’t do this---I acknowledge my fear and am open to letting go and discovering the new me

EB: I’m scared
SE: People will react differently to me
UE: I might lose some people in my life
UN: What would it be like to not have an emotional attachment to my story
CH: How freeing would that be
CB: The facts are the same but no charge
UA: I’d be the ultimate winner
TH: Free

EB: Happy
SE: Joyous
UE: I choose a happy, joyous, free-spirited identity
UN: I can start with emotions I want to feel
CH: Then the rest will change gradually
CB: Oh, to wake up each day in joy
UA: To not be consumed with old stories and resentments
TH: THEY are welcome to that hell

EB: I want my new identity to be abundant
SE: To have people in my life who will be upbeat and happy
UE: Who focus on the positive things in the world
UN: Who like to lift people up
CH: I can be that person
CB: I don’t have to listen to gossip
UA: I could read instead
TH: I can be that happy, joyous and free-spirited person

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I give myself permission to focus on the feelings of how I want myself to be---imagine me—happy, joyous and free-spirited—I’ll tap to that

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I don’t have to worry about how my life will change---my new attitude will take care of that for me---whoooo hooooo”

Have a great weekend!

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12/13/2012

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Releasing the Story
Let’s borrow benefits and tap in some new identities over the next few days

KC: Even though I had all these horrible childhood experiences---I’m ready to let them go
KC: Even though I would love for someone to know how badly I hurt---I see the futility in that---we all have our stories of pain
KC: Even though I’d love to see THEM suffer and have some justice--I see that it’s an excuse for me not to be responsible for my life now---and that shame is worse than holding onto the old pain and story

EB: All this remaining pain
SE: All these remaining memories
UE: All these remaining messages
UN: I feel like I’m drowning
CH: Feel, Tap, Release
CB: I’m safe now
UA: I’m still safe
TH: That was then

EB: They were and are sick people
SE: It was a painful time
UE: I never should have been hurt that way
UN: It never should have happened to me
CH: I deserved to be loved
CB: I don’t know who I’ll be if I let go of the story
UA: I won’t know how to relate to people
TH: I’ll lose friends

EB: People know me as the victim
SE: What will they think
UE: It’s too scary
UN: I can’t do it
CH: What if I could
CB: What if I could let go
UA: What if I could imagine it differently
TH: It’s not the event---it’s the reaction

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: What if I could let go and acknowledge the story and not feed the old reaction

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I no longer have to tell and retell and excuse my current behavior from a victim perspective”

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Negative childhood

12/7/2012

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Issue: unlovable
Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off some negative childhood experiences over the next few days---just bring up your issues and let’s put a dent in them especially with being the holiday
season---oh, those issues do come up

KC: Even though I was told I was unlovable as a child I choose to love myself now
KC: Even though my parents didn’t love me I acknowledge this and choose to see the reality now
KC: Even though my parents were too dysfunctional to love me I choose to accept that and love myself

EB: They loved my siblings
SE: Dysfunctional parents often do that
UE: Pick a child to be the black sheep
UN: I wasn’t loved
CH: Never
CB: I never felt safe
UA: It wasn’t safe
TH: They hated me

EB: They said they hated me
SE: I was a mistake
UE: It was all my fault
UN: WHAT was my fault
CH: Confusion
CB: Yelling
UA: Screaming
TH: Hiding

EB: Clearly I was a horrible child
SE: They loved my siblings
UE: WHY me
UN: I must be dreadful
CH: Maybe they just weren’t ready to be loved
CB: That’s what I brought with me---LOVE
UA: My siblings were selfish
TH: I was the one who wanted to love them

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’m so sorry precious one---you brought the gift of love and they were hurting too much to feel their pain and how unlovable they felt

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I allow myself to feel all the feelings and pain----I allow all resistance to letting go of these feelings of unloveablity to fall away NOW “ (as always feel, tap, release)

Have a great weekend!

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Negative childhood

12/6/2012

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Issue: ugly (cute)
Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off some negative childhood experiences over the next few days---just bring up your issues and let’s put a dent in them especially with being the holiday
season---oh, those issues do come up

KC: Even though I was told I was ugly---I never questioned why they said I was ugly
KC: Even though I still think I’m ugly I acknowledge my thinking and am open to changing it
KC: Even though I was and I think I’m ugly I honor and acknowledge all the hurt and pain and am open to changing this thinking

EB: You are as homely as an old bucket
SE: Gosh, too bad you’re not old enough to wear makeup to cover up that face
UE: You are ugly
UN: Why are you so ugly
CH: Looking in the mirror
CB: Looking in magazines
UA: I am ugly
TH: That’s why they are so mean to me

EB: Not feeling good enough
SE: Always on the sidelines
UE: Always excluded
UN: What if they were just jealous of me
CH: What if they weren’t ready to look at their issues
CB: And so, they had to feed me lies
UA: So they could feel better about themselves
TH: I can see that now

EB: Back then it hurt
SE: I’m ready to feel the pain and start to release that lie
UE: It’s not true
UN: Everyone is perfect for themselves
CH: Everyone has their style and look that they grow into
CB: All the pain of believing the lies I choose to destroy and un-create that NOW
UA: I’m just fine
TH: I’m actually finding people who like me just the way I am

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: My poor sweet inner child I’m so sorry so many people were mean to you---they just hated themselves---feel the tears and pain and finally let it go---it was never you----your soul is beautiful and amazing---let your light shine

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I don’t need to blame or shame them---just see it for what it was----they were hurting----I’m sorry you were hurting and the only way you felt batter was to hurt me----I understand and release it---never to return to me again in this reality”

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Negative childhood

12/5/2012

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Issue: fat (or skinny)
Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off some negative childhood experiences over the next few days---just bring up your issues and let’s put a dent in them especially with being the holiday
season---oh, those issues do come up

KC: Even though I was always told I was fat---it never occurred to me there was a hidden agenda behind the words
KC: Even though my mother told me I was fat---it never occurred to me that it wasn’t true
KC: Even though compared to my friends I was the heavier it never occurred to me that I was also 4 inches taller----I’m ready to acknowledge my feelings and start letting this all go

EB: You fat slob
SE: You’re a pig
UE: You’re so fat
UN: No one will ever love you cause you’re so fat
CH: That’s what she said
CB: I saw kids who were larger and they were liked by her
UA: Why am I considered fatter
TH: Confusion

EB: Everything this brings up I choose to destroy and un-create it now
SE: Fat
UE: Yep, that’s what she said
UN: Distrusting what I saw in the mirror
CH: Choosing shorter and thinner friends to make her right
CB: Maybe if she liked me she wouldn’t say mean things to me
UA: She never liked me all the way to the end
TH: It hurts

EB: A part of me believes them
SE: My weight goes up and down
UE: Oh, the denial and craziness it set up in me
UN: FAT----those words
CH: Everything that brings up----I choose to destroy and un-create that NOW
CB: Words hurt
UA: They weren’t true
TH: They weren’t true

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’m so sorry body that I believed them---I love you and I intend to take care of you my beloved body-temple

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I was fed lies and I binged on them---it’s time to go on a healthy diet of love and clearer vision”

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Negative childhood

12/4/2012

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Issue: dumb (learning challenges) or too smart

Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off some negative childhood experiences over the next few days---just bring up your issues and let’s put a dent in them especially with being the holiday season---oh, those issues do come up

KC: Even though I got this message as a child that I was dumb---I’m open to seeing it clearly now
KC: Even though I was told I was stupid---I acknowledge my feelings and am open to letting go of the labels I bought into
KC: Even though I was told I was stupid---I can see it was a label I bought without knowing if it was true or not

EB: Feeling behind
SE: Stupid
UE: Confused
UN: Not understanding
CH: I don’t understand
CB: Being made fun of
UA: Bored
TH: Scared

EB: All these feelings
SE: I understand the word but not the printed words
UE: Everyone else understands
UN: I MUST BE STUPID
CH: The adults always know better, don’t they
CB: They must be right
UA: It hurts
TH: No one ever tested to see why I can’t read

EB: I just believed they were right
SE: Maybe they are wrong
UE: Maybe I learn differently
UN: Maybe the issue was they assumed like I’m doing
CH: I can tap on my frustration that it took so long to discover I learn differently
CB: Just feel and tap
UA: I’m not stupid I just believed them
TH: The lesson is to question what “THEY” told me

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I feel the pain and embarrassment and choose to let it go---my lesson was to learn not to give my power of knowing away to others----it didn’t feel right in my stomach when they said I was stupid

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I was never stupid---the school system and parents let me down---I can tap on my “less-than” feelings as they arise---I know it’s not true now---I was and always BE smart”

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Negative childhood

12/3/2012

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Negative childhood
Issue: not being seen or heard
Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off some negative childhood experiences over the next few days---just bring up your issues and let’s put a dent in them especially with being the holiday season---oh, those issues do come up

KC: Even though I was invisible as a child because it was the only way I was safe---I honor and acknowledge what I had to do to survive
KC: Even though I learned this behavior of being invisible to save my life as a child ---I’m open
to changing this
KC: Even though I was discounted as a child ---I don’t want to be invisible any more

EB: I had to be invisible and silent
SE: I internalized that I was not good
UE: I don’t remember when it started
UN: I just always hid
CH: Hid myself even from me
CB: I got so used to hiding
UA: Everyone began not to see or hear me
TH: I then felt I didn’t fit in

EB: Always alone
SE: Hiding
UE: Being left out
UN: Hurting
CH: Feeling worthless
CB: Nobody wanting me
UA: All this shame
TH: I had to be this way

EB: All this old hurt
SE: It took on a life of its own
UE: tapping out all the hurt, shame and self-blame
UN: Thank you body for developing a coping mechanism that saved my life
CH: Thank you---please forgive me for holding onto it for so long
CB: I love you little one for doing what you needed to do to stay safe
UA: It’s okay to grow up now and be seen and heard
TH: I love you---please forgive me

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: It’s okay to shine now and interact with people---one moment at a time

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I acknowledge that I was doing the best I could and developed a coping mechanism that saved my life---and it’s now time to change that for something that serves me better”

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To Book a session: contact me at Alisha@ShiftWideOpen.com for a phone or Skype session.

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To Book a session: contact me at
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