A Tapping Journey - Shift Wide Open

Relationships

12/24/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 4 ---holiday family get-togethers

KC: Even though we’re all getting together I honor and acknowledge my feelings
KC: Even though I love everyone I admit it pushes all my buttons---I’m vegan and they ALL are not---I honor and acknowledge all my raging emotions
KC: Even though I know they will all poke fun at me---I want to enjoy the smells, the sights, the hugs, the laughs and just relax and enjoy the experience

EB: It’s not fair
SE: They are gonna single me out
UE: Make fun of me
UN: And the reality is
CH: Everyone will be singled out during the evening
CB: Everyone will be tortured according to their limiting beliefs
UA: It will feel like I’m the only one
TH: The truth is everyone will be singled out

EB: It’s okay I’m different
SE: It’s okay to laugh at it along with them
UE: It’s okay---they are just cute special needs kids
UN: Doing the best they can with their programing
CH: I’m evolving and I sure am not the same as last year
CB: Maybe this year I’ll be even more accepting of where everyone is in their life
UA: Some will be different
TH: Some the same

EB: I honor and acknowledge all of our differences
SE: If it gets to stressful
UE: If the questions and judgments get too overwhelming
UN: I’ll excuse myself and go into the bathroom
CH: And energetically blow up their energy
CB: Sending it back to them in neutral
UA: They are family after all
TH: They show me the parts of me I want to embrace and the parts I want to shift

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Thank you for being my mirror

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to flow with my emotions and only emote the positive ones---the others---KABOOM BABY

Relationships

12/23/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 3 ---friends from youth we see when home for the holidays

KC: Even though we were the best of friends, all of us, I still love them and there is a part of me that just doesn’t relate to them the same way
KC: Even though I enjoy being around my old friends from youth---we are different people now and I honor and acknowledge that
KC: Even though we are all in different places and sometimes we all judge each other for being different---I choose to start looking at this fact and sadness differently

EB: Some are stuck in high school mode
SE: Some are co-dependent
UE: Some are …well, we are all coping with life
UN: According to our internal beliefs
CH: A part of me wants to judge them for being different or stuck
CB: A part of me doesn’t want to look at my intolerance
UA: I’m impatient with myself

EB: People are in my life for a reason, season or a lifetime
SE: Some will drift away
UE: Others I simply have to notice where they are
UN: Most importantly, where I am
CH: Thank you all for being in my life in the past
CB: I’m sorry please forgive me
UA: I can’t relate to you in the same way
TH: I’m sorry, please forgive me

EB: I love you and it’s okay if I’m different now
SE: I love you enough to let you stay stuck if you want
UE: I’ll share what I do if you ask
UN: I won’t defend my beliefs or yours
CH: I’m sorry, please forgive me for not relating to you in the same old way
CB: I love you and thank you on an energetic level for understanding
UA: I’m sorry, please forgive me, I love you, Thank you for the part you have and are playing in my life
TH: I choose to celebrate our differences this holiday season as we all get together--- like old times---it’s all an experience

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Viva la difference----Thank you

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to live in the present and love how much I’ve changed and accept the way others are

Relationships

12/22/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 2 ---relatives

KC: Even though I love my aunts, uncles and cousins I honor and acknowledge how frustrating and annoying they can be ---I want to shift this before I’m around them again
KC: Even though my relatives are passionate, funny and loving people at times their idiosyncrasies can sure get on my nerves
KC: Even though their quirks are endearing in small doses ---during the holidays it stresses me out

EB: My body rhythms are off and my nerves are strained
SE: So of course people are gonna get on my nerves
UE: Who am I kidding
UN: My relatives can be downright annoying over a long period of time
CH: All the personalities
CB: All the gossip
UA: All the judgments
TH: All on the same day

EB: It’s a bit much
SE: All their idiosyncrasies
UE: All my feelings about them
UN: All my judgments
CH: Oops, maybe they see me the same way
CB: That’s funny
UA: All these converging points of views
TH: No wonder I dread seeing them all

EB: No wonder I feel guilty for my point of view about them
SE: Interesting
UE: This is a free will planet
UN: Like a crazy amusement park
CH: We are all our own rides
CB: Interesting the rides we decide to stay on
UA: I choose to use my discernment
TH: Just notice the rides I like and just notice the ones I don’t

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I don’t have to judge just breathe and notice what rides THEY are choosing to go on

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to simply say “hummmmm, that’s interesting….I’ll get back with you”

Relationships

12/19/2014

Sometimes our families can push all our buttons. Let’s borrow benefits to tap some charge off Pt 1 ---immediate family

KC: Even though I love my family there are times when they just make me feel like a child and I resent it---I honor and acknowledge how tiny I feel around them
KC: Even though I’m pretty confident in my everyday life---when I get around my family for the holidays I end up feeling like a phony and looser most of the time
KC: Even though I can ignore the snips of most people---get me around family at the holidays and I could cry and end up stuffing my face and then feel even worse

EB: All these emotions
SE: All the ways I feel I’ve abandoned myself
UE: I don’t seem to know how to set boundaries around my family
UN: I can’t control them
CH: They sure know how to control me
CB: It’s frustrating
UA: I just don’t know what to do
TH: WHY

EB: Why can’t they just let me be
SE: Oh, what if I just tried noticing their points of views
UE: Just notice and say “hummm, interesting”
UN: That way I can unplug from their agenda
CH: Sure they might be frustrated or jealous of me on some weird level
CB: Who cares
UA: I just don’t want to feel frustrated this holiday season
TH: They sure are passionate about their point of view

EB: About how I should live my life
SE: It’s downright hurtful
UE: Only if I let it---it’s just their limiting point of view
UN: THEY have limiting points of views about me
CH: THEY are not going to change
CB: AND I can simply by running a mental script ----noticing
UA: “What a passionate, limiting, point of view you have about me
TH: HUMMMMMMM”

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I choose to notice they all have points of views about me and it’s not my job to correct them---phew!

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself the gift of not trying to change their limiting point of view about me---phew, phew, and hummmmmmmmmmmmmm

Relationships

12/18/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so changed and mean?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 3 During and after the breakup

KC: Even though a part of me is still in resistance because my partner just won’t stop---I choose to return my focus to what I deserve---freedom
KC: Even though a part of me wants to control him---I acknowledge that there is a part of me that is frustrated that I can’t control my life and I choose to accept it and move forward
KC: Even though a part of me likes to be taken care of---what I really desired and still do is unconditional love which is not controlling--- I choose to give that to myself

EB: He just won’t stop
SE: I get in a peaceful place and BAM
UE: There he goes again
UN: He’s an outward reflection of my chaos inside
CH: I’m frustrated that I can’t control him
CB: And he’s frustrated that he can’t control me
UA: I choose to focus on what I want
TH: Just ignoring him is the most loving thing I can do

EB: If that means not talking to him fine
SE: I honor and acknowledge that I cannot control him or his reaction
UE: He will never see my side
UN: Why argue
CH: I don’t care what buttons he pushes
CB: I refuse to try to control him
UA: I honor and acknowledge all the feelings that are coming up
TH: Rage, anger, disappointment, betrayal and abandonment

EB: I honor and acknowledge them and choose to expand my fear out
SE: To let it get bigger, and bigger and finally like a balloon it bursts
UE: Then I can return to my peacefulness
UN: I then regain my power and knowing
CH: I can only control myself
CB: I refuse to buy into his 2 year old tantrums
UA: I have the power to take a second to honor and acknowledge my feelings
TH: And then deal with them energetically

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I’ve been trying to get someone to help me and it turns out that person is me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to rescue myself and not stoop to anybody’s level

Relationships

12/17/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so changed and mean?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2 During and after the breakup

KC: Even though I’m still irritated that he just won’t let up and stop making this difficult---I’m open to the universe helping me see beyond all the drama
KC: Even though he keeps trying to engage me in arguments and I sure want to defend myself---I see that it’s his way to manipulate and control me and make me feel unsure
KC: Even though I want to be rescued from all this---a part of me sees that it’s my journey to focus on NOT stooping to my partners level

EB: No I don’t I want vengeance
SE: I want to be rescued
UE: No I don’t
UN: That’s what my soon to be ex says “that he’s the only one who will ever love me”
CH: Return that thinking to sender
CB: I refuse to buy the lies anymore
UA: I’m to learn to love myself
TH: It doesn’t feel loving everything I’m going through

EB: I want to rescue me
SE: I refuse to give up on me
UE: No matter what he does or says
UN: Sure a part of me wants revenge
CH: Another part of me wants freedom
CB: Freedom to be me
UA: To love me
TH: To not care what he thinks

EB: I want that part to win
SE: I want to be the master of my life
UE: Not living under all this stress
UN: And obsession
CH: The obsession of “why is this happening”
CB: The “why’s”----go away---return to sender in neutral
UA: I want freedom
TH: To live in the continual celebration of me

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Me to the nth degree---I want that part of me to win

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to return to what I want---Freedom from judgment and criticism from him

Relationships

12/16/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so changed and mean?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 1 During and after the breakup

KC: Even though there was a time we passionately loved each other I don’t understand my partners meanness now
KC: Even though we admit that it’s not working why is my partner so vindictive and spiteful and mean---I’m open to letting my wanting to know the WHY go
KC: Even though we were good together and now it’s so dreadful---I’m asking the universe for some clarity

EB: No I don’t I want him to suffer
SE: Quid pro quo
UE: I want him to hurt the way he’s hurt me
UN: I want my pound of flesh
CH: I want him to let me go
CB: WHY…why is he making this so hard
UA: All the mixed messages
TH: All the confusing emotions

EB: I want to know why
SE: No I don’t
UE: Yes I do
UN: I really want someone to treat me with compassion
CH: I need someone to know how much I’m hurting
CB: It’s the same old thing
UA: I keep getting disrespected
TH: I doubt myself

EB: I look outside of myself for answers
SE: I start believing that I don’t deserve better
UE: Otherwise this wouldn’t be happening to me AGAIN
UN: I need to you hear me universe
CH: I desire to let this obsession go
CB: I want to love myself no matter what I’m experiencing
UA: It’s hard to let it go and not scream at him
TH: I want to throttle him

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I give myself permission to feel my feelings and vent---just for now and maybe all day

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to vent and then I allow myself to be open to solution energy

Relationships

12/15/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so abusive?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 3 Abusive

KC: Even though he opened my heart that does not give him a pass to abuse me NO MATTER WHAT
KC: Even though a part of me wants to understand the WHY of it all---another part of me wants to love myself enough to stop the abuse---and I want that part to win
KC: Even though I thought no one loved me until he came along that was true---I didn’t love me and for whatever reason he created the space for me to open my heart---thanks and that doesn’t condone my being a door matt any longer

EB: All this love
SE: All this sorrow
UE: I hate that I never really loved myself
UN: In truth people never touched my heart before
CH: I needed a major biological connection to open my heart
CB: Thank you and now I give myself permission
UA: To keep my heart open and take care of myself
TH: Abuse is NOT love and I’m tired of abusing myself

EB: Every time I allow him to abuse me I betray and abandon myself
SE: NO WAY----I love myself enough to leave
UE: To get the help I need and the support I need
UN: Love is kind and gentle
CH: Abuse and then kind words are simply manipulation
CB: I can see through the manipulation now
UA: He didn’t really love me---it was about control
TH: I hate that and I will not blame myself for believing the lies and manipulation

EB: I give myself permission to focus on what is right for me
SE: To see the truth
UE: To forgive myself for being manipulated by a master
UN: The only good thing is my heart is open
CH: I love me enough to leave
CB: I love myself enough to start to heal
UA: I love myself enough to admit all this to myself
TH: I honor and acknowledge the hatred and I love myself to let it go bit by bit

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I love myself and I don’t need him or anyone else to validate my lovability

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to love me and to own my love---to know it in every cell of my body---and I acknowledge that only my opinion matters

Relationships

12/12/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so abusive?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2 Abusive

KC: Even though I have all this conflict---I still love him and yet, feel so betrayed and angry that this is happening
KC: Even though I want clarity I’m afraid it will mean I have to leave and I don’t know that I can
KC: Even though a part of me knows it’s not my fault another part of me believes his threats that he’ll kill me----I still love him---I’m confused and angry

EB: Why me
SE: I love me
UE: He says he loves me
UN: Sometimes it’s heaven
CH: Why is this happening
CB: There has to be a reason
UA: I know we are supposed to be together—there is all this chemistry
TH: And all this abuse

EB: All these emotions
SE: I want clarity
UE: I can’t be perfect---I try
UN: I don’t know what to do
CH: All this confusion
CB: I want clarity
UA: Clarity
TH: What if there isn’t any

EB: What if I’m just a victim
SE: What if it’s not my fault
UE: Why am I in this situation
UN: Oh, I remember how he made me feel safe and loved
CH: He made me….he opened my heart
CB: For that I am grateful
UA: Thank you for opening my heart
TH: I acknowledge the part of you that is capable to loving

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Now I have to rage against the part of you and me that let’s this abusive dance play out

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I am ready to rage against this confusion

Relationships

12/11/2014

Soul-mate/twin-flame “why is he/she so abusive?”
Sometimes we think we’re destined to be with someone because of familiarity or attraction with someone. It simply means we've spent more lifetimes with this person and have liked playing with them. For the full article see my 12-12-14 Blog/POV article on at www.ShiftWideOpen.com In the meantime let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 1 Abusive

KC: Even though we started out in love and it was blissful---It’s now verbally and sometimes physically abusive and I acknowledge my confusion and rage
KC: Even though my partner blames me for making him explode---I feel trapped and don’t know what I did
KC: Even though a part of me wants to leave another part of me remembers my love for him and the good times and I just can’t make myself leave---I feel so torn and doubt myself---did I cause this

EB: How did this happen
SE: We were so in love
UE: The perfect couple
UN: Sure things aren’t perfect
CH: When I think back it started early on with verbal abuse
CB: Now it’s physical abuse at times
UA: He keeps blaming me
TH: WHY, is this happening

EB: I don’t know how to love him enough to make him stop
SE: He blames me even in counseling
UE: No one sees the abusive side but me
UN: I’m starting to doubt my sanity
CH: No one else ever made me feel the way he did, does when it’s good
CB: There is such chemistry
UA: I took my vows seriously
TH: I want to be the perfect partner

EB: I’m so confused
SE: You can’t make me leave
UE: I’m scared
UN: I don’t know what to do
CH: I feel trapped
CB: He always says he’s sorry
UA: He can be so loving
TH: Universe, someone help me

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: I give myself permission to take one more step and to get angry---I can ever get angry in my thoughts while I tap---that’s safe---I can do it in the bathroom or in the car

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I am safe in certain places and can start to feel my confusion and even feel the anger