KC: Even though people ask me about my past and I tell them and it brings me down. I’m open to changing this pattern.
KC: Even though I’m conditioned to tell the truth I don’t want to go into the details of my past. I’m open to looking at this differently.
KC: Even though part of me likes having an excuse for my failures---another part of me is sick of my victim story and I want that part to win because I love myself.
EB: I’m sick of my victim story
SE: It brings me down
UE: I don’t know how to answer people’s questions about my past
UN: I don’t know what to say
CH: I’m ashamed and embarrassed
CB: I just don’t know what to do
UA: It’s depressing
TH: I feel like I’m lying if I skirt the truth
EB: I freeze and don’t know what to say
SE: I feel like a failure
UE: I feel like a looser
UN: I don’t like talking about the past
CH: Some good came out of it
CB: I am a survivor
UA: I am empathetic
TH: Oh what do say
EB: Oh, you know it had its ups and downs
SE: Let’s just say I’d rather focus on today
UE: It may seem relevant but I’d rather focus on the positive qualities I developed as a result of my upbringing
UN: What’s important is that I now value my personal development and am committed to it
CH: The past was what it was and I focus on the future
CB: I’d rather not go into that now
UA: Please respect my request
TH: I don’t discuss the details of my past
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: I am not in denial I’m just choosing to focus on the person I am becoming
When fear starts creeping in tap on the UE and say: “I choose focus on the person I am becoming and the past I only discuss with 1 trusted friend and only in the context of recovery. I am allowed to set boundaries and politely maintain them.”