KC: Event though I know she means well her visit is ill-timed and is stressing me out---I acknowledge my resentment and am open to letting some of the resentment go
KC: Even though I appreciate the visit and goodies she brought she just won’t leave, as usual, and I don’t know how to let go of this resentment
KC: Even though I don’t want to be rude to her---it ticks me off that she’s so oblivious to my needs
EB: All this resentment
SE: My stomach aches
UE: I have a headache
UN: I’m so mad
CH: She just won’t take the hint to leave
CB: I don’t want to be rude
UA: However, it’s rude
TH: I’m stressed enough as is
EB: Why must I be the one to suffer
SE: Why must I be considerate of her feelings
UE: I’m mad
UN: My head is killing me
CH: Pretty soon I’ll have a major headache and then I can tell her to leave
CB: Why must I make myself sick in order to ask her to leave
UA: Why can’t people be considerate
TH: I’m already stressed
EB: Now this
SE: I really resent her
UE: She always picks the wrong time to drop by
UN: And then never shuts up
CH: It’s always about her
CB: I don’t want to get a headache to stand up for myself
UA: Giving myself permission to set a reasonable time boundary
TH: Then politely asking her to leave
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: It’s better to insist firmly; yet, gently than to hurt myself and let the resentment take hold
When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I owe it to myself to be honest in explain my house and visiting rules”