KC: Even though I didn’t think they’d drop by unexpectedly and money is tight---I’m open to seeing this resentment in a new light
KC: Even though they always seem to know when money is tight and never offer to chip in---I’m
open to looking at this differently
KC: Even though their visit are emotional triggers for me----I honor and acknowledge my feelings before they become resentments
EB: This resentment
SE: It’s gonna cost me money
UE: I can’t afford to pay for their visit
UN: I wanted to go out to eat
CH: I don’t have enough money for everyone
CB: They get under my skin
UA: They never offer to pay
TH: They expect to be treated like royalty
EB: I don’t feel I can say anything
SE: That’s what it feels like
UE: I can’t control the situation
UN: That’s what is bothering me the most
CH: I feel trapped
CB: I have a right to resent them
UA: They never call ahead of time
TH: The house is a mess
EB: I’m embarrassed
SE: Maybe they don’t care
UE: Maybe they are judging me
UN: I don’t have to take them out
CH: I can make a pasta dish
CB: If they don’t like it they can leave
UA: I can ask them to help out in the kitchen
TH: If they know I’m breaking the pattern they can choose not to drop-in unannounced
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: Just because people stop by unannounced doesn’t’ mean I have to cater to them---nice and polite is all I have to do
When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “Eventually I’ll work my way up to saying “I’m sorry this isn’t a good time, and so this doesn’t happen again please call first---they get in my car and leave to do what I planned”
Have a great weekend!