Let downs

Sometimes we expect life to go a certain way and when it doesn’t we feel victimized or let down.  Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2Invitagions to parties

KC: Even though I should be grateful to be invited to holiday parties---I honor and acknowledge that it gets on my nerves
KC: Even though I like seeing people---it’s too much
KC: Even though there is so much to do and parties are nice---some of the people really push my buttons

EB: The judgments
SE: The bragging
UE: The questions
UN: I end up feeling less than
CH: All the food
CB: All my issues with food
UA: All the traffic
TH: All the forcing myself to chat with people I don’t know

EB: All the pressure to bring the perfect food contribution
SE: All the pressure
UE: All the emotions
UN: What to wear
CH: All the looks
CB: All the comments
UA: “Oh, you’re STILL single”
TH: All the pressure

EB: I don’t feel relaxed
SE: I don’t feel I can say no
UE: Then I’ll hurt their feelings
UN: If I leave early then I have to deal with the traffic
CH: Feeling trapped and uncertain
CB: I give myself permission to relax
UA: I give myself permission to enjoy the car ride and limit my stay
TH: I give myself permission to decline an invitation and treat myself to an at-home-spa-day

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Just cause I’m invited doesn’t mean I have to say Yes

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: I give myself permission to return their judgments and expectations and disappointment to the appropriate sender