Relationships

Sometimes in a relationship the other person says or blames us for something---it’s a chance for us to clear some old triggers.  Let’s borrow benefits and tap some charge off Pt 2

KC: Even though a part of me still feels hurt about what he said I honor and acknowledge how I feel
KC: Even though I admit my needy; he’s not perfect and oops, I almost judged him---and I want to let that part of me go
KC: Even though neither of us is perfect I acknowledge that when I’m hurt I react with judgment and I want to let that part of me go

EB: No I don’t
SE: He’s a jerk for what he said 
UE: It hurt
UN: I always take the high road
CH: I’m tired of it
CB: But, this is my path
UA: He’s just showing me where I need to clear some old stuff out
TH: I’m sick of always taking the higher road

EB: Okay, so if I clear my judgmental stuff out then I won’t be so needy
SE: If I don’t judge him then he won’t feel reactive in return
UE: Oh, I’m actually a party to this hurtful dance
UN: I want to start to let this go
CH: My neediness and my reaction to what he said
CB: A part of me doesn’t want to
UA: I acknowledge that part of me that still doesn’t trust the process
TH: And the part of me that doesn’t feel safe

EB: And I admit I don’t trust him either
SE: That’s because I don’t trust myself
UE: So, the more I trust myself and the process
UN: The stronger our relationship will be
CH: Now that’s exciting
CB: I can back that
UA: I want to not judge him
TH: Because I don’t want to judge myself

Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh

CB: Then he won’t judge me

When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to letting go of more judgment; and finding a way to meet my own needs”