KC: Even though I’m still afraid to ask for what I need I acknowledge that the part of me that wants to ask is growing stronger
KC: Even though I have all these conflicting feelings---I honor and acknowledge that they are coming up so I can let them go
KC: Even though I’m not sure about the difference of selfish asking and real needs----I’m willing to see it’s a process and to be gentle with myself as I learn
EB: All this fear
SE: All this confusion
UE: What if I do it wrong
UN: I get to change my mind
CH: I get to negotiate
CB: I’ll have choices
UA: Only a few things might be deal breakers
TH: I’m not unreasonable
EB: His reaction has nothing to do with me
SE: It’s just his reaction to change
UE: We’ve been co-dependent for so long
UN: Of course there is going to be some tension
CH: It’s okay
CB: All this fear
UA: All this uncertainty
TH: All these choices
EB: I choose to focus on the choices
SE: I choose to ask for what I need
UE: I choose to take a breathe and know it’s a process
UN: I choose to remain calm and confident
CH: I choose to know that in time I’ll know what is a deal breaker
CB: I’ll know what I’m comfortable compromising on
UA: This is a good thing
TH: I choose to focus on the potential all this holds for me
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: I get to learn more about myself
When the limiting thoughts come back tap on the UE and say or think: “I am committed to learning and loving all of me”