KC: Even though I’m used to being critical and judgmental of myself. I want to change that behavior and love myself more.
KC: Even though I don’t know what a loving parent would do I can imagine it and choose to practice that behavior.
KC: Even though I feel silly doing this I know from the past loving myself is the key so I choose to see how this feels.
EB: This feels silly
SE: What if I forget
UE: My parents always were critical
UN: That’s all I know
CH: But I have seen on TV what it looks like
CB: How was your day?
UA: I let so-and-so get on my nerves again
TH: I’m sorry- it’s hard to let other people live their lives and not get triggered ourselves
EB: I know---it’s just they keep whining to me and I don’t know what to say
SE: What would you like to say
UE: Shut-up and stop looking at me and talking to me---just leave me alone
UN: Oh, I hear you saying, “I’m sorry you are in pain and I’m sorry I’m not the one who can help you.”
CH: Yes, I just don’t want to talk to them cause they’ll just keep talking
CB: It can be hard but a smile and a polite simple sentence can work even if you say it to yourself
UA: I’m sorry I’m not the one who can help you but I bet so-and-so can
TH: That’s right you don’t have to help every one
EB: I don’t
SE: No, in fact it’s not healthy
UE: It’s NOT
UN: No, so you can let yourself off the hook and if you slip and they re-stimulate you we can discus it tomorrow
CH: We can
CB: Sure, we’ll practice on saying what we mean, not saying it mean, and meaning what we say
UA: I like that idea
TH: I thought you might
Breathe in through the nose and out through the mouth- ahhhh
CB: I don’t have to be perfect each time. I can quietly reflect on my day and see what mistakes I made and then correct them. I can visualize myself easily and effortlessly setting boundaries. That feels really good.